I Kind Of Want To Change My URL but I Am Attached To The One I Have: An Autobiography
So guys, at my school we have a senior, Hannah Wagernackle, and she has Down’s syndrome. Despite that, she is very popular, and on our cheerleading team. A few weeks ago, she asked James Maslow, from Big Time Rush, to prom through a video. The video has over 20,000 hits, and on Friday morning, he sent a response. Sadly, he could not make it to our prom because he would be shooting for Dancing with the Stars. Instead, he flew her and her mom and sister out to LA for an extended weekend with him. He took them to Disneyland, and she is coming with him to shoot DWTS on Monday and they are going to have their own special prom dance. I cannot believe this happened to one of us. Please share this story, Hannah’s story, to show that not all celebrities are douches to their fans.
I have a few copies of “Playboy” from the 1970s stashed away somewhere. One of them has a letter where a guy writes in saying, “I met this really gorgeous, sweet woman, and we were planning to get married, but she sat me down yesterday and told me that she had a sex change before she met me. Mr. Hefner, should I marry someone who used to be a man?” and the response was, “So she had a sex change, big whoop. Would you be asking this question if she’d made any other change in her life before she met you? You love the woman she is now, and that’s all that should matter. If you want kids you can adopt or something.”
I feel so conflicted right now
Do you guys SERIOUSLY not know that Hugh Hefner is super respectful of women and doesn’t play around with peoples misogynistic bullshit?
just because you want to be surrounded by hot ladies 24/7 doesn’t mean you’re a douchebag
But he’s still making money using their bodies as objects of sexual desire for men. Women with the same body type, at that. He may not believe in sexism on a personal level, but he’s sure as hell profiting from it.
Sometimes it’s gray and it swims
Holy mother of YES, THAT.
hrhchriscolfer: Happy Easter from me and the Endeavor! Hope you’re having as much fun as us!
futurama is one of those shows that lures you in by being funny and then rips your fucking heart out
If you didn’t know the hand was her father, the squid thing her mother, her parents left her at an orphanage when she was a baby but in reality were looking out for her all her life
what makes it even sadder is the reason they left her in an orphanage. they didn’t want her to know she was a mutant. they wanted her to live a normal human life so they gave her up while they live in the sewers as mutants.
Young women are having difficulty accessing tubal ligation, despite it being a relatively safe (death rate is 1-2 per 100,000) and elective surgery.
There is a waiting period of 30 days for women seeking tubal ligation, yet no waiting period for men seeking vasectomies.
Young women are often discriminated against when seeking sterilization. Many doctors ask offensive questions (“What if you met a billionaire who wanted to have kids with you?”), state categorically that their patients are too young to consider the surgery, and generally act as though, as one woman who tried unsuccessfully to be sterilized at the age of 21 in the U.K. put it, ”just because I was a woman, I’d reach a point where an urge to breed would overcome all rational thought.” (Perhaps unsurprisingly, that woman’s 25-year-old husband faced no such presumptions when he asked his doctor for a vasectomy. The procedure was quickly approved.)
Say that at 18 I slap down enough money so I could have my whole body covered head-to-toe in tattoos, piercings all over myself, a mountain of cigarettes, plastic surgery, and plan to have like 20 babies… but if I try at all to safely make it impossible for me to breed for the sake of my health suddenly its like WOAH THERE SLOW DOWN MISSY YOU’RE NOT READY FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT YET
I have stage III Endometriosis, which means I have to get my uterus removed because I literally have terrible cramps ALL THE TIME and not just when I’m on my period. Now, I’ve always said I don’t want any children for personal reasons and I don’t need my uterus, really. I am not worried about that surgery and I don’t feel any kind of nostalgia over an organ I won’t ever use.
The thing is, my doctor is a ‘man’. This ‘man’ told me I had to get pregnant right now before it’s too late. I told him I didn’t want to get pregnant and explained the multiple reasons but what, do you ask, did my doctor have to say about this? 'Well, better have a kid now because just imagine how depressing it must be being a thirty-something woman without children and a husband?'
I was diagnosed a year ago. I should have gone through surgery six months ago and I still can’t find a doctor that will perform the surgery without trying to force me to have children first. Basically, if you’re a woman you don’t have a say in what can and cannot be done to your body without a shitload of people getting in the way AND I’M FUCKING SICK OF IT.
Women are getting non-consensually sterilized in prison but no doctors in my area while tie my tubes at 24 because I might regret it? Fuck you, doctors. I have more purpose in life than dropping babies. Some of those women in prison are probably great moms and I have no interest in parenting. Let us have a say!
A dear friend of mine wanted to have her tubes tied. She was about to give birth to twins and the doctors wouldn’t consent because she wasn’t 21 yet. She had already had children and they still refused to let her have the procedure.
My friend got a vasectomy a week after asking his doctor for one, no problem. He was 25.
Me? I’ve asked 4 different doctors for some kind of permanent sterilisation—tubal ligation or Essure or whatever—and I get a pat on the head and a “You’d regret it if you did.”
Oh, DIDN’T REALIZE YOU HAD A DIRECT LINE TO MY BRAIN.
On the flip side, as a vagina-having person who had her tubes tied at the age of 26 (after having 4 children, however):
MY HUSBAND HAD TO SIGN A CONSENT FORM IN ORDER FOR ME TO HAVE THE PROCEDURE DONE.
How many times have we heard stories about husbands having vasectomies behind their wives backs and never telling them, letting those wives wallow in guilt and misery, thinking it’s their fault that they can’t get pregnant?
And yet I had had to get my husband’s permission to have my tubes tied.
(Obviously this was a decision we’d talked about extensively beforehand, so it’s not like he was about to say no, but we both couldn’t believe the fucking audacity of the hospital, asking HIS permission for ME to do something with MY body. In fact, he said as much to the nurse that brought in the forms.)
I am 36. I’m single, I don’t have kids and I don’t want kids.
I also had horrendous, frequent periods. When I went to the gynaecologist, she recommended that we try a Mirena. I let her know that I’d had menorrhagia on a previous form of low-dose, oestrogen-only birth control (implanon), and that I was apprehensive that it wouldn’t work.
She said “Well, after that you’re out of options.”
I was incredibly upset. I was willing to try, but what if it didn’t work? Was I literally condemned to a life where I’m bleeding and in pain more often than not and I just have to put up with it?
I rang my parents. My Mum listened to me and said “That doesn’t sound right” and put my Dad (who’s a doctor, and a qualified obstetrician/gynaecologist) on the phone.
Apparently I was not out of options and she shouldn’t have said I was. The next option is a surgical D & C to see if that fixed it, and if that didn’t work, an ablation, which would have left me permanently infertile. If that didn’t work, a hysterectomy (although Dad warned me that I should do what I could to avoid the hysterectomy, it comes with a horde of other side effects.)
I don’t know whether it was fear, I don’t know whether it’s because I was a public patient. I don’t know what it was. But the gynae was so scared of female infertility that she wouldn’t even give me information about treatment options. I had to ask my father.
(FYI, the Mirena worked and I had a shouting row with the gynaecologist where I accused her of having her objectivity and medical judgement biased by the religion of her employers.)
I’m so lucky that my doctor is almost “pushing” sterilization on me. He’s super supportive and knows that I’m done having kids, but still don’t have anything permanent planned.
When I approached my specialist about permanent forms of birth control, the first thing she said to me was that I was too young (I was 22). I kept telling her that it was a decision I had made nearly a decade ago because of having Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and now POTS and scoliosis, but she kept trying to convince me that I wasn’t old enough to make that decision. My decision has been formed because of my poor health and high complications with pregnancy that could be deadly. My mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother all had complications with birth and miscarriages from EDS, and it’s a miracle that my mother even lived through her miscarriage. After explaining this, my rheumatologist and EDS specialist finally said that they could get me in contact with an high-risk OBGYN to see if there are other options for me for having children.
BUT I DON’T WANT CHILDREN. I don’t want to pass along these disorders. I don’t want to be on five months of bed rest. I don’t want to risk miscarriage after miscarriage or dying during giving birth. I don’t want to dislocate my hips whilst giving birth. I don’t want my organs to tear and never heal properly because of EDS. I don’t want to have to care for another being while I can’t even take care of myself because of the fatigue and pain. I don’t want to subject a child to have to take care of me as I become more disabled. I ALREADY HAVE A CAT. I CANNOT TAKE ON ANOTHER DEPENDENT.
It just infuriates me that between the health risks, family history, and my own decision about my life and body, I am still not taken seriously. This shouldn’t be a problem!
as someone who has family history of rheumatoid arthritis, cancer, thyroid and heart issues, as well as personally has diabetes and narcolepsy… having a child would take me off of all medication and i would be almost a vegetable and on bed rest for most of my pregnancy. this is not conducive to the health of a child nor my own health. but as we all know, women are useless except for being incubators, right? :/
at 24, i pleaded with my doctor to give me something permanent. i was told that i would regret the decision because i wasn’t in a stable relationship. when i explained that i’ve never wanted children, that i have health issues that make bearing children dangerous, i was told that being on the pill would be good enough. completely ignored.
i’ve fought unsuccessfully for the past 5 years to have a gynecologist listen to me when i tell them that i need a more permanent birth control in consideration of the fact that half of my medications for chronic disorders NEGATE birth control. the pill? is only 40% effective for me. on a good day. i’m allergic to nickel so i can’t even spring for Essure, although my doctor refused to give me that either when i asked.
i’m almost 30, and i’m currently in talks with a guy friend to masquerade as my stable relationship just so i can get myself sterilized. i don’t want to pass on the numerous chronic conditions in my family. i don’t want to risk having miscarriages because the stress of pregnancy triggers my cataplexy. i can’t function without medications that would be addictive to the baby if i got pregnant.
my brother payed $250 to get himself sterilized. i can’t pay enough to get a doctor to hear me about STRONGER birth control, let alone sterilization. i shouldn’t need to belong to a man to make a decision about my own health.
honestly, i shouldn’t even have had to explain to my mom that the misery i go through 2 weeks out of a month (extreme fatigue, debilitating cramps, complete incapability to control my narcolepsy or my diabetes) makes me want to get rid of my ovaries altogether. i would THRILL for a hysterectomy, knowing as i do that it would mean hormonal shifts. but i have no desire for children. and i want to try to care for the rest of my system. i am willing to let go of the reproductive system to get the rest of my health. this shouldn’t be up for argument. this shouldn’t be up for discussion. this is my body and it’s my decision for a fucking healthier me.
i wish i could explain what’s going on in my brain sometimes i’m so sorry
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Just called an anorexia help line and the girl answered and immediately hearing I was male said “you’re real funny douche” and hung up. If you dot think that’s messed up, u messed up.
ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME
[ jesus bursts out of the tomb ] no, nO, NO I’M ALIVE I’M ALIVE I AM SO ALIVE
So despite my initial hesitance, I watched Gravity.
And despite some of the more intense scenes making me anxious enough that I had to look away, I’m glad I did it. It’s definitely flawed, but it’s still a pretty good film. I just wouldn’t recommend it to someone who might be triggered by some of visuals and/or plot elements.